"I can’t. I can’t argue with that because what that means is that people don’t understand. It means that people nod their heads and say, “yes that must be so difficult yes recovery wow sounds hard.” And it is, yes! It is hard! But understanding doesn’t end there. Understanding means being conscious of the fact that so many people on this campus suffer with mental disorders, and CAPS has a waiting list and sometimes people need help that day, and CAPS isn’t even that helpful, and some people don’t even know they have these problems and they suffer in silence. It means that telling me I’ve “been looking good and thin” lately isn’t a compliment. It means that telling me I’m “overreacting—just relax” isn’t helpful. It means telling me that I’m “acting crazy” genuinely makes me feel crazy. Understanding means being careful with your words and offering support based on how your friend needs support—let them tell you what they need. If I say I don’t want a dessert in Usdan that night, don’t tell me I “deserve it.” Don’t ask me why I’m depressed because the answer is that I’m in a depressive episode right now and actually, no, there’s nothing you can do to help except for maybe not telling me to just “get over it.”"