On Tuesday, November 18, Wesleyan got a bit sexier with a visit from Oh Megan, the sex magician. Megan Andelloux is a Clinical Sexologist, and a Sexuality Educator who also founded the Center of Sexual Pleasure & Health. So she’s more qualified than your average person to give a lecture she herself described as “in between sex education and porn.”
Oh Megan came to campus to talk about sex and communication, and to hand out various toys to the very eager audience. She encouraged us to take sexual adventures and warned against the dangers of sticking things up our butts that aren’t specifically built for butts: “the butt is like a three-year-old near Halloween candy.”
She began the lecture by describing and advertising the various sex toys she brought as rewards for constructive contributions, and admitted that she brings more “prizes” for Wesleyan students than for any other audience. This was met by glee and anticipation by everybody in the room, eager to get their paws on not only vibrators but also wrist constraints, and butt plugs that doubled as fluffy foxtails.
The promise of fun prizes caught our attention, but Oh Megan’s conversational and informative lecture kept us engaged. Her lecture was accompanied by a slideshow that featured whimsical images, often prompting giggles from the audience. The first slide was titled “What info you’ll be absorbing/Come and take it” and included a playful image of a tampon.
Megan first challenged us to define desire, and to explore what drives our sexual experiences. She did not answer her own question, but rather asked us to respond. The answers ranged from emotional needs being fulfilled to having sex with two people at once.
Next, we explored what people want, and drew sexual fantasies on pieces of paper that we then flung across the room to a fellow student. We were then told to interpret the drawings we received, which ranged from joining the mile high club to being penetrated by somebody wearing a unicorn mask. Oh Megan emphasized that all fantasies are valid, no matter how wild or how “vanilla” and that you don’t have to try obscure moves to achieve sexual pleasure; sometimes you just need to masturbate while lying on a different side of your body.
Near the end of the lecture, Oh Megan played two videos that my grandmother might consider “explicit.” The first focused on penile masturbation, and interviewed many penis owners to gauge their experiences. However, the most compelling part of the video—besides the fact that men of various ages (teenage to significantly older) were being interviewed in the nude—was that these men discussed their feelings about masturbation, not just the porn they watched to get off. One person didn’t think they would ever be able to masturbate, and felt triumphant when he finally discovered how to do it.
The second video that we watched focused on masturbation techniques for a clit owner. In the video, a middle-aged woman wearing a giant diamond ring demonstrated how to manipulate a clitoris by playing with the vagina of a blonde woman lying on the bed with her. Both of these videos, while they may have inspired some nervous giggles and stomach butterflies, were intriguing mainly because they revealed categories of masturbation that society usually doesn’t support. Allowing penis-owners to share their emotions connected to masturbation rather than simply the physicality of it and encouraging clit-owners to learn masturbation techniques was a breath of fresh air to an already very progressive and open-minded student-body.
One of the last things Oh Megan discussed in her presentation was realization and pursual of sexual fantasies. She told us to write down specific sexual acts that we have fantasized about but have not yet fulfilled, and to write down the names of three people we were attracted to, but had yet to have sexual intercourse with. She then encouraged us to pursue these sexual adventures, with the consent and enthusiasm of a willing partner. She also mentioned that if the partner is not willing, however, that it should not be taken personally, and insisted that “they are taking care of themselves.” She encouraged the rejected party to thank the rejecter.
Oh Megan’s parting words to her audience of captivated and sexually-charged students were “go forth and fondle.”